There ought to be point 3 which is lately he is busy with his master degree work and his gf has some family problem and keep telling him. So guys being guys (especially a single kid which has all the attention from parents) he lost patience... but i kinda think this is related to point 2..
So, there were unhappy arguments and he was sighing in front of me when we came back for some weekend work. Not hard to see where the problem came from. I simply think both have a lot to learn... But the really ironic thing was, a few months back he was telling me how great he thinks of his gf, and all about buying house and getting married.. and now, when i unintentionally told him about our young female colleague who decided to break up with her ex bf because he is going to study in UK, he actually said that was a wise move.
I didnt comment on that point, cause i have seen couples 7 years apart still loving each other while couples who stick together for years breaking up in the end. So its a subjecive matter, and its also a mattter of commitment and maturity of those who deals with it.
But the point is, I realize people see what they want to see. I am sure if i have told my colleague this story 3months back, he wouldnt say it is a wise move to give up on a relationship because of distance. But now when he feel tired of putting up with this girl, he just wished he had given up earlier, prob an easier excuse than to make something up now and look bad on himself.. what you see, is actually what u think. and actually we all know this word.. "Perception"
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Knowing that there are many LDR going one, i do feel truly that they deserve encouragment.. sharing a story..
uni friend of mine has a gf whom were his secondary schoolmate.she went to india for medic while he came to singapore for his engineer degree. after he grad, he took up a scholarship to do phd in UK, thats another 4 years apart. But they r still strong together till now..
so i truly feel its the mindset that relly matters, its more than just a feeling, its a choice. Someone gives up easily cause they know they cant commit. Fair enough, its their life, their choice. But if you think it is worth it, then u deserve it too...
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Another BKK pics...
Cant remember if i have posted a pic with my mom be4 but here goes.. @ banana house restaurant..
nice enry!
ReplyDeleteLDRs... it's something invisible and abstract that is keeping us together. And of hope and patience...
ReplyDeleteBanana House? Pandai you pilih tempat makan. :P
Hmmmm... I'm not sure if it's somehow related.
ReplyDeleteI have a game-friend, whom we play the same online game and in the same guild, and he asked me what's the meaning of 'Perception'.
And then he told me his problem that his gf left him because of his intention to further studies. We had the chance to talk a few nights while we were online in the game.
His (ex) gf was ignoring him since then and not willing to discuss things. I really wonder why his (ex) gf chose to hide and not talk things out.
Perception may change after gaining some experience.
ReplyDeleteAnother LDR entry well pointed out ;)
ReplyDeleteHey Calvin, welcome! and i think u mean "entry" ? thanks.. =)
ReplyDeleteWill, thats a decent restaurant.. and juz because its call "banana" doest meant u hav to stick ur tongue out.. behave!
Pikey... i am not sure if this is what u where asking, but take a simple example of perception on LDR, if one is optimistic towards it, they think it will last and try, a pessimistic person prob giv up without trying.. something like that?
JJ, thats for sure.. and everything has a time stamp on it.. which is why i always believe being at the right place at the right time with the right person is what make things work..
Jon, thanks =) .. but this is merely an observer, maybe just imaginary tlk.. will or sky.. these are the people who truly know best..