Thursday, December 23, 2010

Differences, and thus?

Scene 0

A : "... Can't we try to work things out..."

B : "...take for example you like horror movies, I like romance, we are just so different, we really dun have much in common, there is nothing we can talk about.."

Scene 1

A+ : " ... I notice you like to read too, have you heard of this author... "

B+ : " Err... not really... "

A+ : " Wow, then we have got a lot to talk about... "

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A chat with a friend inspired me on the second dialogue. Indeed, he showed me a different way to look at differences. Afterall being human, it is impossible to be 100% the same. And how you handle the differences is really a matter of how much you value the relationship.

We are blood-link with our family, we don't have a choice, we have to accept them for who they are. Friends or colleague on the other hand comes and goes. If we have differences that we don't agree on, it's probably easier to just move separate ways. But lover, your companion, someone you once vowed to protect and support, as we move on in life, there are bound to be differences because of the experiences we have in life. And how we tackle this differences is really how much we valued the other person. Most of the time, we tend to see it as a negative sign, that probably fate is telling you that both of you don't belong together. But have you tried to look at it in an optimistic way, that it is actually a new spark in your relationship to have more interaction, to learn from each other? No one knows everything, and no one can always be right. Why not keep an open mind? especially to someone whom u love?

Well, you may say that Scene 1 usually happen on new couple or newly met friends, where grudge level is 0 and tolerance level is infinite, true, but still, it is about setting our own mindset and making an effort isn't it?

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Harbour to Staten Island, one of the Southern most point in Manhattan


It was freeeeeeeezing because of the wind from the sea... for the first time i feel the need of hoodie..

5 comments:

  1. Managing difference is an art...not easy but possible. When in love, the tolerance level is always very high...Merry X'mas!

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  2. hmmm i guess u're right, sometimes it really takes both to make that extra effort to accept each other's differences and accommodate to them. I'm facing a lot of differences and am not sure if its worth the effort.

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  3. It definitely takes an effort to close the gap, but sometimes, it's just too big.

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  4. Armanique, it is never easy, but take a step back and look at it again. If even so, when u have such strong affection, it still doesn't feel right, probably you shud give it a thought. Or else, ur heart will tell you its worth all the effort and u wont have doubt.. =) I believe so...

    Will, for some reason these words coming from you just sound a little not right... what's too big and cant be closed? =p

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