Right place, right time, and the right person...

Not long ago, I bought this book by a famous taiwanese host-cum-writer.

It is about all the love stories.. nope, not love stories as in fictions, but stories of people around and about her.

Tonite reminds me of one particular story, it goes like this...

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There was this girl, A ,who was young and pretty and has all the qualities to succeed as a high flying celebrity. She encounter this young rich man who well, is not good-looking, slightly plump and worse of all, an idiot who only knows how to spend his parents wealth. Cars, women, drink is what the guy is only interested in. Even with a pretty girlfriend A who is blindly attached to him, he still goes out and flirt and spend like no one's business. Eventually, all his family wealth has depleted to nothing, and when you think he wud at least learn his lesson, he started asking money from A.

A, who keeps believing that the idiot will change and turn a new leaf, keep working and supplying him with money. All she wanted is to have a family with this man she loves deeply. So no matter what happen, she keep on supplying him with her hard earn money. While the idiot keep using the money as if it was his own, on women, drinks... Until there was this time, that he was in huge debt with loan shark, that he was forced to leave the country, and he just told A that he wants to break off.. just that..

Poor A, who has wasted so many years, and wanted to have a family with this man, ended up wasting her youth, her money for nothing in the end but a broken heart..

Well, if the stories just end here, then it probably might be better, but soemtiems fate can be cruel. After some years, the Man return to the country, no one knows what happen to him, but he seems to have finally turn over a new leaf, has a proper career, and no longer addicted to his bad habit. In fact, he got married and became a good husband and father. Except the bride isn't A. It was a young lady in ther early 20's.

It simply says, A has been giving and struggling all her life, just hoping that the man she loves will turn good and give her a family she always wanted. But, in the end, this simple things she wanted, went to a young girl effortlessly, just because the young girl met her man at the right time, and the right place. When he has really learned his lesson and determinedly become a good man... while A, still alone and has lost most of her precious things...

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Sad story isn't it? For A... But if you believe it, we can only blame that fate is cruel on us. Why cant she be the one to meet the guy after he has learned his life lesson and be good...

It is just like in this circle, say 2 young guys, who have just came into this world, they were lucky enough to meet each other, dedicated to give each other their life, and are really the "right" match.. they probably live happily ever after. ( You may bet this is too ideal to happen, but proof to me it never occurs on anyone..)

Then look at another pair, one just came in, young and optimistic in seeking a dedicated partner, and met with this person, who has failed several relationship because of various reasons, and the person is just too tired to try again, who knows, this mayb the right one, but he is just too tired, to bet in the love game again.. and well, they just missed each other..

and lastly, 2 experienced guy, both in the circle long enuf, both has seen enough, to tell you (from their perspective) that true love doesn't exists, because they have failed enough times to be optimistic, so now that even they have met, they wouldn't open up their heart to trust each other, they might just be fun buddy, hand around, they might feel that the other seems to be a right person, but neither might open up to love again, so just a "meaty" relationship and never trust... till the day they leave the world.. Will they be happy? I bet they will regret before their very last breath, does money matters to you at that time, or a memory that makes you smile while you breath your last breath? (I am quoting this example as I have met and spoken to some who are in their late 30's it seems like this is their common believe, which at this point, I still disgree strongly..)

I wouldn't say what I feel is 100% correct, but at least at this point of time, I still feel that opening up ur heart, eventually you will meet someone with the same heart as urs. And if we never try, this will never happen..

But still as the story I quoted, sometimes can you blame the others to be pessimistic after so many heart breaking sessions? How strong do you have to be? So, eventually you probably have to be "at the right place, in the right time with the right person"... and guess what, in chinese, this is simply call 缘份 (yuan fen)...